my advise to OPs specific situation/thread topic of boondocking is adapt the "we're only spending the night, in transit" mode and stealth camp...forget the idea of boondocking...
Every base I've been too I've seen it happen daily, random RV parked somewhere without issue or van/pickup/car parked without issues...paying fees...key phase is parked, not habituated and especially don't make the appearance you're having fun as this will inspire those who don't like your appearance of happiness to make trouble for you.
if a base has a campground and you're just passing thru in an RV just pull up to camp office lot late (after 10pm) and park, go to sleep use alibi "it is/was too late to park safely and didn't wanna make a disruption"...macdill is notorious for this in the fall as snowbirds head for the keys. People have been doing this for yrs they use the shower house, even do laundry in shower house watching tv not hanging out in their rig making their rig appear non habited to onlookers (potential complainers) then be gone in morning before 6amish when atypical campground hosts do rounds making notes of non paying squatters whom essentially are not paying fees...
My tips
If they don't have a campground, show up late @ POV sale lot, stealthy don't hang out in chairs under rolled out awnings or attract attn, just go night night no gen set running no ac/heat and be gone in the morning, nobody will notice (there is guy doing it in fort Snelling Mn as I write this, has his class c with tv antenna up in a parking lot across from base hotel and security isn't bothering him?) because he isn't boondocking, he's stealth camping just going nite nite ))
he's been here at least a week since I first noticed him...even has his drag behind tow bar drug Ford ranger he disappears all day long in (no tow dolly laying around, tow bar is in his truck bed)
Smart enough to use different parking spaces nightly of said parking lot instead of parking right outside his RV so as not to make impression he's there camping/squatting; not so vigilant types see this as just random vehicles parked in a parking lot, nothing to see here....
if anyone does make issue be courteous, say you felt tired and took a nap, act embarised and move out somewhere else pronto which should be easy as you should be move out/roll away ready...in the end you camped free for the night which seems fair as you weren't spread out grilling, watching outdoor tv drinking with music, using facilities other than base gym etc.
After some yrs using, experiencing military campgrounds I feel the old ways of asking security seems honorable, respectful, but in today's DoD being direct and communicating your intentions, confirming your plans will only attract attn to you/make trouble for you in modern new military where dependents are seemingly more important than servicemen/veterans onbase, "putting the cart in front of the horse" adage defined...its like you need a female dependant & bratty kids to validate your veteran status on base privs???
